I noticed this link in Thursday's ALLABOUTGEORGE:
"Love – Things Wong Kar-wai Taught Me About Love by Alice Dallow
Requited love is an impossibility.
You will fall in love only once. Obstacles will prevail. The rest of your life is spent recovering.
Eroticising their possessions will be the pinnacle of your sexual fulfilment.
Anything that distracts you from the pain of your loss is good. Some people are more successful in this regard than others.
Hook up with someone. Live with them. Sleep with them. Tag along. Don't be fooled. You are only a transitory distraction. Ask for commitment. Declare your love. Watch the set up evaporate.
The most potent way to exist is to occupy someone else's imagination.
Desire is kept eternally alive by the impossibility of contact.
Modern communication enabling technologies will only heighten your sense of desolation by making you more keenly aware of the fact that no one is trying to call.
Maybe I need to track down Wong Kar-wai's Days of Being Wild now that I've read the review, which may be a summary of all his films or a summary of this particular film, since it includes a Days of Being Wild photo. For me the review evokes nice sharp images, "you only fall in love once" and, even if you find your love requited, "obstacles will prevail and the rest of your life is spent recovering". I don't think you only fall in love once. Twice, maybe. I'd believe three. I've fallen in love more than once and, although obstacles prevailed - no problem finding obstacles, I'm one of them - I'm not sure what is meant by "spending the rest of your life recovering". There's always a little background noise, the occasional memory, the occasional flash of sorrow, but no more than a year or two of actual anguish. Old loves never really leave. Elements of truth here, producing, as I said, nice sharp images. Or is that just me?
Also liked the "Modern communication enabling technologies will only heighten your sense of desolation by making you more keenly aware of the fact that no one is trying to call." Good. Modern life is still one of those interesting learning experiences, even now.